When my granddaughter Zoey and I were at the local library one day after school, I saw a woman standing with a little girl, who I assumed was her daughter. Since the girls looked around the same age, and were shyly checking each other out, I introduced myself to the mom as the grandmom (no kidding) and she told me her name. Turns out the girls had seen each other in school, so they went off to play and mom and I sat down, a couple of seats apart, to keep our eyes on them.
In times like this – 2 strangers within speaking distance –
I often weigh whether it’s OK to make conversation or it’s NOT OK and better to
assume the other person would rather be left alone. It’s not that I’m
uncomfortable with the quiet; it’s that I see the opportunity to chat with
someone new and possibly make a connection, which is always fun for me. Sometimes
I hear David’s words echo in my ear: “Why do you always feel you have to talk
to ‘random’ people?” which makes me think twice but usually I proceed anyway.
On this day at the library, I decided to do what I wanted to
do – after all, it was my birthday! I
asked mom if they visit the library often, since I had never seen them
before. In a way, it sounded like the infamous pick-up line: “Do you come here
often?” but it was an appropriate question given the scenario. Her response was
so pleasant, and she was very happy to talk. She said they had recently moved
to this area from Oregon and didn’t know many people but both she and her
daughter love the library, especially on the monthly Book Club days. I had no
idea that this library had a Book Club for little ones! She then filled me in
on all the details and told me to sign up online if interested. I decided to
talk to Zoey and her parents about it later.
Zoey seemed very excited. When the next Book Club day came,
I received an email that the leader was sick and that day’s meeting was cancelled.
I was sooooooooo disappointed and knew that Zoey would be too.
As I was on my way to pick her up from school, my girlfriend
called to wish me well on my special day. Given how consumed I was at the
moment with letting Zoey down, I proceeded to tell my friend about the situation. When I
was done, she said "I understand," quickly pivoting to "Your library
has a Book Club for kids in elementary school?”
A retired elementary school teacher who gives me great book
recommendations for kids that are always a hit, she seemed so impressed! She didn’t
think her library had this activity but said she was going to check. When I got home, I sent
her a link to my library’s “Events” page, where the Book Club and other
programming was listed by date.
Meantime, I picked up Zoey and when I told her the news
about the cancellation, she held up her hands in exasperation and said, “Why
did we do all that reading then?” I don’t like letting my grandbabies down.
That felt so wrong. I wasn’t sure how the next hour would play out, but she rebounded
quite nicely, thank goodness.
Just two weeks later, my girlfriend texted me: “I am so
excited! I spoke with Mr. Tate from your library about the Book Club and…I am
going to start one!” WOW. She wasn’t messing around.
I have been marveling over this for weeks. I am so happy for
my girlfriend, who seems genuinely thrilled to create her library’s first
children’s Book Club – and what lucky kids! This came to be, at this time, as a
result of my talking to a “random” woman at the library who told me about it,
and then sharing that information with my girlfriend who happened to call me to
say Happy Birthday while I was ruminating over Zoey’s reaction to the cancellation.
You never know where a chance conversation with a “stranger”
might lead, and/or how it might impact someone and, in this case, my friend,
too.
I also learned that the library mom’s daughter is a “Daisy”…en route to being a full-fledged Girl Scout (which I was and loved)…most
importantly, I now have a direct connection to Girl Scout cookies!
